Sunday, May 18, 2008

A Walk to Beautiful


I have long been a fan of NOVA on PBS and last week while surfing the channels I found this documentary which touched me deeply.I thought I would share it with all of you. I think it affected me so because I had just finished reading Three Cups of Tea and was having a really bad week(we thought we were going to have to put one of our dogs to sleep among other things) but this documentary really put things in perspective for me.
The Documentary is called A Walk To Beautiful and shows the plight of many women in the developing world and that is obstetric fistula. I encourage you to view the You Tube video at the end.
This is a transcript from All Things Considered on NPR from this past Jan 17,2008 that explains their plight better than I ever could.
{Complications during delivery are a leading cause of death for women giving birth in developing countries. In remote areas, women sometimes languish in labor for days. Those who survive the ordeal often endure a lifetime of agony from severe internal injuries.
In Ethiopia, the Addis Ababa Fistula Hospital offers a rare chance at treatment and respite for some women.
One of the patients, Fantan Dere, is a young girl unsure of her age. She tells nurse Bethlehem Tesfaye that she may be 10, but the nurse thinks it's more likely Fantan is 12.
Fantan says she has been married for four years; marriages happen at a very early age for girls in rural Ethiopia. But they usually aren't consummated until the girl is ready to conceive. Fantan didn't live with her husband until two years ago. In July, she went into labor with her first child. She was in labor for three days before she was taken to a hospital in Dessie. By then, the baby had died and Fantan was severely injured.
There are few health workers or skilled specialists beyond a local midwife to assist rural women during childbirth. More often, other women in the neighborhood are their helpers. That was all that was available to 18-year-old Haddassa Abraham.
"When I was in labor, they were pushing my abdomen and I was suffering a lot," Haddassa says. "I was yelling very much. They were holding me and I was screaming."
An Injury that Brings Shame
The injuries Haddassa suffered were the beginning of a humiliating condition she has endured for the past year.
"After I got home, and I started to leak stools and urine. Then I got very sad," she says. "I started to wash myself, to cover it with some piece of clothes."
Haddassa has an extreme case of fistula, a condition that occurs when tissue walls within the pelvis are torn. Usually, just the bladder is involved. But nothing stops the leaking. In absence of professional treatment, women with a fistula sometimes will insert stones and rags in the vagina to try to stop the leaking. They are afflicted with horrible infections and a constant odor. These women are often abandoned by their husbands and families and become outcasts in their community. Haddassa's family brought her to the Addis Ababa Fistula Hospital.
"I see these girls, and it breaks my heart," says Ruth Kennedy, a 54-year-old midwife at the hospital.
Kennedy explains that obstruction in labor often occurs because the mother's pelvis is too small for the baby's head, or the baby is in the wrong position as it emerges from the womb.
Difficult labors can cause fistulas by tearing the tissue walls between the vagina and the bladder, and in some instances, the rectum.
Role of Poverty
In Kennedy's 23 years in Africa, she has come to understand firsthand just how poverty contributes to this tragedy.
"Poverty is why the little girl of 2 is taught to carry a water jar. It's a small water jar, but by the age of 8, she is carrying weights I cannot carry. So then by the age of 10, 11, 12, she is carrying all the wood for cooking, all the water for cooking and washing purposes," Kennedy says.
"This consumes enormous calories for this small child, and her consumption of calories is not enough," she says. "The little girl loses stature. Her bony pelvis is small."
Kennedy works for New Zealander Dr. Catherine Hamlin, who, in 1971 with her late husband, founded the 140-bed Addis Ababa Fistula Hospital. It is supported by a nonprofit foundation.
The hospital, supported by a nonprofit foundation, is a series of low-lying buildings shaded by trees. It's a hushed place with wards of gleaming, white walls and floors that reflect the light streaming through the windows. Rows and rows of small women lie in the beds.
"They come here, we put them in a bed with white sheets and blankets," Kennedy says. "They've been sleeping on a goatskin in their village, but that doesn't mean that's how we treat them in our hospital. We have them in beds. We give them a nightdress. We give them a shawl."
In some instances, medicine, proper nourishment and exercises to strengthen the bladder and pelvic muscles will heal the fistula.
In most cases, however, surgery will be necessary to repair it. The surgery is a fairly straightforward procedure that involves separating the bladder from the vagina and closing the hole. Chief surgeon Biruk Tafesse left his position at the University of Addis Ababa to work at the hospital.
"When I was a resident, I'd see these patients and the suffering, and I decided that I have to help these patients," Tafesse says.
The typical patient is between the age of 15 and 20. Some patients are younger, and some patients are older women who've lived with the fistulas for years. That, he says, can disable them because they've kept to their beds or crouched in corners.
"They're trying to prevent this leakage, and they're hiding at the same time also," Tafesse says.
So muscles become rigid, and the women have difficulty walking. Tafesse shows us a room at the hospital devoted entirely to physical therapy. There are women on exercise machines and a girl lying on her stomach as a therapist helps her to flex her knees.
For some, the problems are more than physical, and the hospital recently hired a psychiatric nurse.
"After passing through all these problems, they develop psychiatric problems," Tafesse says, including depression and suicidal acts.
Altered Lives
The hospital places a lot of emphasis on attending to the psychological impact of enduring such pain and isolation, but even with treatment, psychological and physical problems can persist.
Some women will have to wear an external bag to collect urine or feces for the rest of their lives, but that kind of medical care is complicated to deal with in a rural village. So Tafesse says they've created a village, called Desta Mender or Joy Village, for these women just outside of Addis.
"We try to recreate the rural atmosphere," he says. "They can grow some vegetables. There are chickens and cows. And there are also some fruit trees and so on."
Most women who have had obstetric fistulas will never be able to have children and, in many instances, cannot have sexual intercourse. Such women are considered useless — a notion that isn't that disturbing to young Measlee Shagru, who didn't want to get married in the first place. As a cloud burst breaks the quiet outside the hospital, Shagru looks forward to returning home and a new life.
"When I go back home I just want to learn," she says. "I want to go to school."
Obstetric fistulas need never happen. And they seldom do in the United States and other western countries. When there are complications during delivery, there is usually a hospital or a doctor nearby who can perform a caesarean. Like most poor countries, Ethiopia suffers from brain drain. There are now more Ethiopian doctors in the city of Washington, D.C., than in all of Ethiopia — a country of more than 70 million people.}
I think this show and topic touched me so because I have had similar issues in the past though not to this degree from a congential anomaly and I know that for the grace of god go I.
Here is the website for the The Fistula Foundation and for the documentary A Walk to Beautiful.
I encourage you to watch it if you get the chance.
The shawls they wear that they are given at the hospital to me makes them look so regal and beautiful like Joseph's coat of many colors.
"The one thing we can all agree, all faiths and ideologies, is that God is with the vulnerable and poor. God is in the slums, in the cardboard boxes where the poor play house... God is in the silence of a mother who has infected her child with a virus that will end both their lives... God is in the cries heard under the rubble of war... God is in the debris of wasted opportunity and lives, and God is with us if we are with them." Bono


Wednesday, May 07, 2008

Three Cups of Tea


I highly recommend this book. I am about halfway through it but it is a wonderful read.Greg Mortenson the writer of this book has started 55 schools in the remotest parts of Pakistan and Afghanistan.The schools he starts are mainly for girls who otherwise would not be able to get any type of education.. He proves that one man just like you and I can do great things.He believes as do I that the best way to combat terrorism is to build individual relationships with others and provide the youth a chance to get an education.He started the Central Asia Institute to promote and continue this work.
In this book he speaks to the culture shock he feels as he goes between the privileged world and the third world.I often feel that I don't possess the ability to do great things like this in the world but I know there is something I can do right here where I live. I think there is need everywhere for compassion toward our fellow man if only we look. I have decided that one of the things I want to do is become a literacy volunteer. This is an obvious choice for me given my love of reading and all things bookish. I cannot imagine not being able to read and through a workplace program that my employer provides they will donate 3 hours of my base pay per hour a month to whatever literacy program I volunteer for so it is a win/win situation for all.
I am really inspired by Jen Lemen and her desire to help her friend Odette I encourage you to go to her blog and read their story.I also encourage you to go to Ali Edwards blog and view her thoughts on telling our stories.
Thanks for all your encouragement toward me and I just want to thank all of you for continuing to stick with me and be my friends.Have a good rest of the week. I will be back this weekend. This is the week I work 4 12 hour shifts out of 5 days.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. Do the thing you think you cannot do. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
My thoughts and prayers are with those in Myanmar.
Off to cook Tiki Masala for supper.

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Pistol River STate Park


I know I haven't post much of late. I seem to be in some sort of funk. I hope to get my wits together and be back to normal soon.

I am so looking forward to summer right now.Here are some of the things I want to do this summer.

Go and read on the beach or in the dunes with the sounds of the ocean as my backdrop.
Go To Seattle for a Day Trip.
Go to Crater Lake National Park to see"the Mirror of the heavens".
Eat as Locally as possible.
Expand my cooking skills.
Take lots of photos.
Spend time with those I love.
Have lots of picnics.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

The Last Lecture-Randy Pausch



I encourage you to spend 10 minutes and watch this video.It will make you cry and BE INSPIRED. It is one of the greatest lectures I have ever heard and orginally was given at Carnegie-Mellon University.

This video by this very brave man sums up so well my philosphy of life in just 10 minutes.

Watch and Be Moved!

Mahatma Gandhi : If you don't find God in the next person you meet, it is a waste of time looking for him further.

Tuesday, April 08, 2008

Flabby Arms=Fantastic

Yesterday I watched this woman on Oprah .I have long been a fan of hers not so much for her acting but her approach to life.She is Jamie Lee Curtis as I am sure most of you know.She will be 50 in November and she went on Oprah to talk about that and the fact the she was on the cover of AARP magazine recently.You can go to their website to read her interview.I really like her because she is who she is without hiding behind the mask of youth.
I will be 44 this year and her words and philosophy toward aging really hit home with me.She said on the Oprah show that when she was on the show in her late 30's and she waved to the crowd that she could see on the video that the flab on her upper arms went one way and her arm the other. I can so identify with this and it gave me a laugh.I have those same upper arms.Jame Lee said that her dad was from Hungary and that she couldn't deny her genetics that being that she came from a line of solidly built sturdy women.I too come from that sort of lineage because no matter how much weight I lose I will never be dainty. I come from the farming stock of the British Isles and Eastern Europe with some Cherokee Indian thrown in for good measure so I look more like a stout farmwoman than a dainty city woman.
I am not against plastic surgery to correct health defects such as cleft lips, breast reductions and even tummy tucks etc if it makes you feel better about yourself. I know that if I had the money I would have breast reductions so my back wouldn't hurt so much as sometimes I feel like I carry around the prize winning watermelons at the county fair on my chest.LOL.I would also have laser hair removal of that hair you get in those unwanted places on your face and chin as you age.I do think that when you allow teenagers to get plastic surgery for cosmetic reasons when they are in their mid teens just to make them look more sexually attractive to boys that something is wrong with this picture.
In the interview Jamie Lee said that the few times that she has had plastic surgery early in her career that when she went to look in the mirror that the surgery didn't fix the problem because she still saw the same person staring back at her. I think that this is true with most all plastic surgery.I know that this is true in my on personal life.I have found that until you resolve the issues you have with your own self image and accept yourself that no amount of plastic surgery will solve this.
I am still at this place in my life.I work on it daily. In my early 30's and growing up I always felt ugly and to extent I still do. I know that a lot of it had to do with the male influences in my life growing up who told me that I was fat and ugly but finally just yesterday as I was taking a shower and looked in the mirror I thought to myself "Your not that bad Flabby Arms and Muffin Top and all".My husband thinks I am pretty and finally at almost 44 I am okay with that.
I find that as I age I am more confident with who I am and that I worry less and less about others opinions and learn more and more to listen to that voice within and live my own truth.

I am Okay just being me .

It is important to expect nothing, To take every experience,Including the negative ones,As merely steps on the path, And to proceed."Ram Dass

Monday, April 07, 2008


  • Nutritious :: Green leafy veggies
  • Graduate :: High school
  • Tonight! :: Rest
  • Located :: Place
  • Weapon :: Gun
  • Jumper :: High
  • Collectibles ::Dust Collectors
  • Dennis :: The Menace
  • Hostile :: Anger
  • Vivid :: Imagination
  • From Unconscious Mutterings-A word association game of sorts.

      Thursday, April 03, 2008

      Suspension

      Swinging Bridge

      I know that I haven't posted much of late but I hope to be back soon. I chose this older photo of mine today because I feel that I am in a transition period in my life. This is a suspension bridge that swings with your weight as you cross it and it illustrates how I feel right now suspended between the past and future.
      In January I chose as my word Revitalize but what I should have chosen was Revive or Simplicity. I am craving simplicity very much in my life right now. I find the most comfort and peace in simple things and places. I find that I enjoy the most the days and moments where I am just in the moment and loving it.I am also finding that in these moments of pure contentment and delight I find my my deepest happiness. Here are some examples: walking the dogs in a local park and seeing the sun slant down thru the firs and coastal redwoods to the forest floor like gods finger pointing to me toJust Be and Live, or the greetings of the dogs when I come home from work after a 12 hour day, the joy of finding a new book in my mailbox from Paperback Swap,the pure beauty of the spring blossoms and buds all around me.
      I am seeking to simplify all areas of my life . I find that even after giving away a lot of stuff when we moved here I still have to much clutter so my goal for the coming two months is to continue to simplify our home and myself.
      I also find that simplicity can be found in other ways.I have not been on the computer quite as much and have put a time limit on the amount of time I will allow myself to stay on here as I find for me I waste away precious moments and hours surfing the web which could be better spent on being creative and enjoying the people and things I love. I am not saying that I don't still enjoy it just that I don't want to just mindlessly waste time on here. I purposefully leave my cell phone on vibrate or in the car sometime so I don't feel compelled to answer it. I find it very sad that you see so many people who can't go thru a meal in a restaurant without constantly checking their cell phone or text messaging people.
      I want this spring to really be a time I can look within and bring forth the flowers of tommorrow from the seeds of today.

      "We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be." — May Sarton