Yesterday I watched this woman on Oprah .I have long been a fan of hers not so much for her acting but her approach to life.She is Jamie Lee Curtis as I am sure most of you know.She will be 50 in November and she went on Oprah to talk about that and the fact the she was on the cover of AARP magazine recently.You can go to their website to read her interview.I really like her because she is who she is without hiding behind the mask of youth.
I will be 44 this year and her words and philosophy toward aging really hit home with me.She said on the Oprah show that when she was on the show in her late 30's and she waved to the crowd that she could see on the video that the flab on her upper arms went one way and her arm the other. I can so identify with this and it gave me a laugh.I have those same upper arms.Jame Lee said that her dad was from Hungary and that she couldn't deny her genetics that being that she came from a line of solidly built sturdy women.I too come from that sort of lineage because no matter how much weight I lose I will never be dainty. I come from the farming stock of the British Isles and Eastern Europe with some Cherokee Indian thrown in for good measure so I look more like a stout farmwoman than a dainty city woman.
I am not against plastic surgery to correct health defects such as cleft lips, breast reductions and even tummy tucks etc if it makes you feel better about yourself. I know that if I had the money I would have breast reductions so my back wouldn't hurt so much as sometimes I feel like I carry around the prize winning watermelons at the county fair on my chest.LOL.I would also have laser hair removal of that hair you get in those unwanted places on your face and chin as you age.I do think that when you allow teenagers to get plastic surgery for cosmetic reasons when they are in their mid teens just to make them look more sexually attractive to boys that something is wrong with this picture.
In the interview Jamie Lee said that the few times that she has had plastic surgery early in her career that when she went to look in the mirror that the surgery didn't fix the problem because she still saw the same person staring back at her. I think that this is true with most all plastic surgery.I know that this is true in my on personal life.I have found that until you resolve the issues you have with your own self image and accept yourself that no amount of plastic surgery will solve this.
I am still at this place in my life.I work on it daily. In my early 30's and growing up I always felt ugly and to extent I still do. I know that a lot of it had to do with the male influences in my life growing up who told me that I was fat and ugly but finally just yesterday as I was taking a shower and looked in the mirror I thought to myself "Your not that bad Flabby Arms and Muffin Top and all".My husband thinks I am pretty and finally at almost 44 I am okay with that.
I find that as I age I am more confident with who I am and that I worry less and less about others opinions and learn more and more to listen to that voice within and live my own truth.
I am Okay just being me .
It is important to expect nothing, To take every experience,Including the negative ones,As merely steps on the path, And to proceed."Ram Dass